Preparing for my exams and studying Psychology have again stirred and confirmed my heart for people and how broken they are. I have said it before and I will say it again: The Blood of Jesus, the Gospel, and God’s love is greater than any diagnosis of mental illness or physical sickness on earth. I can say that with boldness, not only because the Bible says so, but because of the change, radical change, it brought in my life. More on my testimony in the next blogpost… 🙂
So the other night I thought again of how I ever reached the point in my life some years ago where I was depressed and broken to the extent of being suicidal. I asked God about it and immediately it came to me: The Big 5 Killers. Obviously there are more, but these five characteristics that came to mind were definitely the ones that contributed to my downfall. It can most certainly be expanded upon, but that, of course, is beyond the scope and purpose of this blog.
In short, the Big 5 Killers (in no particular order) are:
This happens when we constantly examine how we compare to people in any particular area (pick one, there are many).
The converse of comparison is CONTENTMENT. To accept and being satisfied with who you are, what you have, where you are going etc.
Not the kind of pride that is a feeling of pleasure or satisfaction when you’ve done something well. This is the kind of pride that gives you the feeling that you are better or more important than other people. That’s the killer.
The converse of pride is HUMILITY. The ability to show that you are not too proud to ask for help or to admit that you have been wrong, that you don’t think you are better than other people and acknowledging that everyone, every one, was made unique in the image of God.
When you are not confident about yourself (in any particular area) or in your relationships with other people.This could be due to comparison and could lead to isolation.
The converse of insecurity is to be SECURE in who you are. To feel happy and confident about yourself to such an extent that you cannot be affected or harmed by what others think or say about you. What God says about you is most important and no human being can take that away from you.
The act of separating yourself physically or socially from other people and reaching a state of being/feeling alone. By being or feeling alone you convince yourself that no one cares or understands, yet you do not reach out for help from others, probably because of pride.
The converse of isolation is FELLOWSHIP. To surround yourself with authentic relationships, to share what is happening and allowing people to speak into your life with love.
This is when you continue to express very strong disapproval towards yourself when you feel guilty for things you’ve done (or you didn’t do when you were supposed to), or you condemn others and make them feel guilty for things they did to you (or didn’t do according to your expectations of them), or you think that God is guilty of wronging or disappointing you.
The converse of condemnation is FORGIVENESS. Forgiving others for what they did to you, forgiving yourself for mistakes you made, and forgiving God if you have been blaming Him for bad things that have happened throughout your life. God is only good. He is light and there is no darkness in Him.
God’s word says in Romans that there is NO CONDEMNATION for those who are in Jesus Christ. You are forgiven. And just like condemnation and forgiveness can be much elaborated on, all the points above can be discussed further in a lot more detail. I just realised again how extremely grateful I am towards God for rescuing me from that life of death. He gave me life and the simplicity of living on purpose and who I am meant to be on this earth.
“Anyone here who believes what I am saying and aligns himself with the Father, has at this very moment the real, lasting life and is no longer condemned to be an outsider. This person has taken a giant step from the world of the dead to the world of the living. The time has arrived – I mean right now! – when dead men and women will hear the voice of the Son of God and hearing, will come alive.” ~Jesus (John 5)
Only the TRUTH can set you free from whatever is killing you at this moment. Choose to tune into what Jesus says about you. Faith comes by hearing the Word of God. Spend time with God and His Word. He will affirm you.
Hear Him. Believe Him. Align with Him. Take the step from death to life. The time to come alive is now!
Truth is not a few psychological principles, a doctrine, or science.
Truth is a person. Jesus Christ.